fucking thank you
i was just talkin about with somebody the way that boys are socialized from real early to like, get hot over the sight of a woman, just real real hot! with any practical advice on how to have a fuckin conversation—let alone good sex—just tossed right out the window. the point of male heterosexuality, in our society isn’t the pleasure of the woman, and it’s not for the full pleasure of the man.
male heterosexuality is sort of a religion with specific tenets, taboos and mores. it’s used to sell itself relentlessly, intertwined with beer and cars and soaps and all it needs is the agreement that yes, that extremely specific woman is hot.
at the kitchen and the cafe i work for you get dudes checkin yr papers all day, nudging you. it’s not enough for them to know that woman across the room is hot, they also really need to know, almost literally, which side yr on. so there’s this pressure on you, all day, to admit to some leering dude that a woman is hot, in order to maintain that trust and camaraderie and good co-worker relations.
and when you don’t deliver you see the eye contact start to turn quicker, the jokes being withdrawn, the attention getting brusquer, the requests taking longer to approve. that’s it in it’s subtlest form. the more extreme and desperate males will will on-the-spot insist you join them in this fuckin game of Hetero Quest! where the more women you appreciate for their bodies alone, the more straight and normal and safe and good and trustworthy you are. which is why that is now my exact. specific criteria for ending up on my Creep Watch list. you’re on probation if you cop to that shit to me and i don’t like you as much for it.
if you don’t go along with it with somebody intense, you have to get into this fucking argument and you’re thereafter branded the “sensitive, PC” one.
male heterosexuality subscribes to a three-brick pyramid of broad personality/gender types: very masculine (on top), very feminine (underneath), and if you are not their favorite (on top) and they don’t want to fuck you (middle) then you end up in the third type zone, an unexplored, vaguely undesirable type, and thus you are welcome to all the bullshit they aim downwards, with none of the evolved attempts to understand bc there’s not desire to connect. you get all the teasing and weird, passive-aggressive headgames, if not straight up violence and abuse and murder.
male heterosexuality it is so limited in its worldview that every person in the world is flattened out into some extreme and weird and contorted version of themselves and if they aren’t, and they aren’t actively working to get into that extreme exaggeration, they serve no functional purpose and have nothing of social value to offer.